(actual quotes from students)

1. Make the rules clearer
2. Parents should present a united front
3. Don't give us everything we want
   
4. Don't do everything for us
   
5. Don't give up on discipline
   
6. Don't allow us to control the boundary lines because we'll keep changing them
   
7. Make reasonable consequences, ones that YOU can keep, then hold to them no matter what
   
8. If you are divorced or not getting along with each other, don't use us as a tennis ball
   
9. Don't discuss the rules with us or ask if we agree with them or like them, we don't, but we need them
   
10. Don't lecture for hours-we're not listening anyways
    
11. Don't let us wear you down
    
12. Practice what you teach - If you get drunk or high, we'll use it as an excuse to get high also
    
13. Don't make empty threats
    
14. Don't compromise
    
15. Don't blame our friends, our school, or our society for our trouble
    
16. Don't give up on us
    
17. Don't say we're going through a stageStart discipline early on
    
18. Don't fight our battles, smother or overprotect us (Example: If we get into trouble with a teacher don't go to school and argue with the teacher)
    
19. Don't look the other way
    
20. Don't be intimidated by us, don't back off.
    
21. Don't walk on eggshells with us
    
22. Don't be afraid to confront us in public if we are being outrageous
    
23. You don't have to prove that we did something wrong. It's not a court of law. If you suspect us of something, you are allowed to accuse or challenge us, even though you may be wrong
    
24. Check the window sills for butts
    
25. Don't give us random money- It's too easy to use for drugs
    
26. Check the directions of the fans in our rooms- Be suspicious if it faces out towards the window
    
27. If you are looking for drugs, be sure to check the light fixtures, under mattresses (Especially Your Mattresses), socks, deodorant containers, etc. - We pride ourselves in clever hiding spaces
    
28. Don't let us have locks on our bedroom doors
    
29. Don't be afraid to invade our privacy. If we are in trouble you should read our letters, check our closets, check out our friends
    
30. Be suspicious if we sleep a lot, have red eyes or runny noses
    
31. Be suspicious when we: wear cologne, use mouthwash, chew gum, wear hats or dark glasses
    
32. Don't fall for the lie " But all the other kids' parents let them.
    
33. "Stick to your rules don't give in an inch-- Believe it or not, we want you to catch us, stop us, and outsmart us...

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